Chapter XVIII.
On the different functions of modesty. How it should qualify both
speech and silence, accompany chastity, commend our prayers to God,
govern our bodily motions; on which last point reference is made to two
clerics in language by no means unsuited to its object. Further he
proceeds to say that one's gait should be in accordance with that same
virtue, and how careful one must be that nothing immodest come forth
from one's mouth, or be noticed in one's body. All these points are
illustrated with very appropriate examples.
67. Lovely, then, is the virtue of modesty, and sweet is its grace! It
is seen not only in actions, but even in our words, [115] so that we
may not go beyond due measure in speech, and that our words may not
have an unbecoming sound. The mirror of our mind often enough reflects
its image in our words. Sobriety weighs out the sound even of our
voice, for fear that too loud a voice should offend the ear of any one.
Nay, in singing itself the first rule is modesty, and the same is true
in every kind of speech, too, so that a man may gradually learn to
praise God, or to sing songs, or even to speak, in that the principles
of modesty grace his advance.
68. Silence, again, wherein all the other virtues rest, is the chief
act of modesty. Only, if it is supposed to be a sign of a childish or
proud spirit, it is accounted a reproach; if a sign of modesty, it is
reckoned for praise. Susanna was silent in danger, [116] and thought
the loss of modesty was worse than loss of life. She did not consider
that her safety should be guarded at the risk of her chastity. To God
alone she spoke, to Whom she could speak out in true modesty. She
avoided looking on the face of men. For there is also modesty in the
glance of the eye, which makes a woman unwilling to look upon men, or
to be seen by them.
69. Let no one suppose that this praise belongs to chastity alone. For
modesty is the companion of purity, in company with which chastity
itself is safer. Shame, again, is good as a companion and guide of
chastity, inasmuch as it does not suffer purity to be defiled in
approaching even the outskirts of danger. This it is that, at the very
outset of her recognition, commends the Mother of the Lord to those who
read the Scriptures, and, as a credible witness, declares her worthy to
be chosen to such an office. For when in her chamber, alone, she is
saluted by the angel, she is silent, and is disturbed at his entrance,
[117] and the Virgin's face is troubled at the strange appearance of a
man's form. And so, though she was humble, yet it was not because of
this, but on account of her modesty, that she did not return his
salutation, nor give him any answer, except to ask, when she had learnt
that she should conceive the Lord, how this should be. She certainly
did not speak merely for the sake of making a reply.
70. In our very prayers, too, modesty is most pleasing, and gains us
much grace from our God. Was it not this that exalted the publican, and
commended him, when he dared not raise even his eyes to heaven? [118]
So he was justified by the judgment of the Lord rather than the
Pharisee, whom overweening pride made so hideous. "Therefore let us
pray in the incorruptibility of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in
the sight of God of great price," [119] as St. Peter says. A noble
thing, then, is modesty, which, though giving up its rights, seizing on
nothing for itself, laying claim to nothing, and in some ways somewhat
retiring within the sphere of its own powers, yet is rich in the sight
of God, in Whose sight no man is rich. Rich is modesty, for it is the
portion of God. Paul also bids that prayer be offered up with modesty
and sobriety. [120] He desires that this should be first, and, as it
were, lead the way of prayers to come, so that the sinner's prayer may
not be boastful, but veiled, as it were, with the blush of shame, may
merit a far greater degree of grace, in giving way to modesty at the
remembrance of its fault.
71. Modesty must further be guarded in our very movements and gestures
and gait. [121] For the condition of the mind is often seen in the
attitude of the body. For this reason the hidden man of our heart (our
inner self) is considered to be either frivolous, boastful, or
boisterous, or, on the other hand, steady, firm, pure, and dependable.
Thus the movement of the body is a sort of voice of the soul.
72. Ye remember, my children, that a friend of ours who seemed to
recommend himself by his assiduity in his duties, yet was not admitted
by me into the number of the clergy, because his gestures were too
unseemly. Also that I bade one, whom I found already among the clergy,
never to go in front of me, because he actually pained me by the
seeming arrogance of his gait. That is what I said when he returned to
his duty after an offence committed. This alone I would not allow, nor
did my mind deceive me. For both have left the Church. What their gait
betrayed them to be, such were they proved to be by the faithlessness
of their hearts. The one forsook his faith at the time of the Arian
troubles; the other, through love of money, denied that he belonged to
us, so that he might not have to undergo sentence at the hands of the
Church. In their gait was discernible the semblance of fickleness, the
appearance, as it were, of wandering buffoons.
73. Some there are who in walking perceptibly copy the gestures of
actors, [122] and act as though they were bearers in the processions,
and had the motions of nodding statues, to such an extent that they
seem to keep a sort of time, as often as they change their step.
74. Nor do I think it becoming to walk hurriedly, except when a case of
some danger demands it, or a real necessity. For we often see those who
hurry come up panting, and with features distorted. But if there is no
reason for the need of such hurry, it gives cause for just offence. I
am not, however, talking of those who have to hurry now and then for
some particular reason, but of those to whom, by the yoke of constant
habit, it has become a second nature. In the case of the former I
cannot approve of their slow solemn movements, which remind one of the
forms of phantoms. Nor do I care for the others with their headlong
speed, for they put one in mind of the ruin of outcasts.
75. A suitable gait is that wherein there is an appearance of authority
and weight and dignity, and which has a calm collected bearing. But it
must be of such a character that all effort and conceit may be wanting,
and that it be simple and plain. Nothing counterfeit is pleasing. Let
nature train our movements. If indeed there is any fault in our nature,
let us mend it with diligence. And, that artifice may be wanting, let
not amendment be wanting.
76. But if we pay so much attention to things like these, how much more
careful ought we to be to let nothing shameful proceed out of our
mouth, for that defiles a man terribly. It is not food that defiles,
but unjust disparagement of others and foul words. [123] These things
are openly shameful. In our office indeed must no word be let fall at
all unseemly, nor one that may give offence to modesty. But not only
ought we to say nothing unbecoming to ourselves, but we ought not even
to lend our ears to words of this sort. Thus Joseph fled and left his
garment, that he might hear nothing inconsistent with his modesty.
[124] For he who delights to listen, urges the other on to speak.
77. To have full knowledge of what is foul is in the highest degree
shameful. To see anything of this sort, if by chance it should happen,
how dreadful that is! What, therefore, is displeasing to us in others,
can that be pleasing in ourselves? Is not nature herself our teacher,
who has formed to perfection every part of our body, so as to provide
for what is necessary and to beautify and grace its form? However she
has left plain and open to the sight those parts which are beautiful to
look upon; among which, the head, set as it were above all, and the
pleasant lines of the figure, and the appearance of the face are
prominent, whilst their usefulness for work is ready to hand. But those
parts in which there is a compliance with the necessities of nature,
she has partly put away and hidden in the body itself, lest they should
present a disgusting appearance, and partly, too, she has taught and
persuaded us to cover them. [125]
78. Is not nature herself then a teacher of modesty? Following her
example, the modesty of men, which I suppose [126] is so called from
the mode of knowing what is seemly, [127] has covered and veiled what
it has found hid in the frame of our body; like that door which Noah
was bidden to make in the side of the ark; [128] wherein we find a
figure of the Church, and also of the human body, for through that door
the remnants of food were cast out. Thus the Maker of our nature so
thought of our modesty, and so guarded what was seemly and virtuous in
our body, as to place what is unseemly behind, and to put it out of the
sight of our eyes. Of this the Apostle says well: "Those members of the
body which seem to be more feeble are necessary, and those members of
the body which we think to be less honourable, upon these we bestow
more abundant honour, and our uncomely parts have more abundant
comeliness." [129] Truly, by following the guidance of nature, diligent
care has added to the grace of the body. In another place [130] I have
gone more fully into this subject, and said that not only do we hide
those parts which have been given us to hide, but also that we think it
unseemly to mention by name their description, and the use of those
members.
79. And if these parts are exposed to view by chance, modesty is
violated; but if on purpose, it is reckoned as utter shamelessness.
Wherefore Ham, Noah's son, brought disgrace upon himself; for he
laughed when he saw his father naked, but they who covered their father
received the gift of a blessing. [131] For which cause, also, it was an
ancient custom in Rome, and in many other states as well, that grown-up
sons should not bathe with their parents, or sons-in-law with their
fathers-in-law, [132] in order that the great duty of reverence for
parents should not be weakened. Many, however, cover themselves so far
as they can in the baths, so that, where the whole body is bare, that
part of it at least may be covered.
80. The priests, also, under the old law, as we read in Exodus, wore
breeches, as it was told Moses by the Lord: "And thou shalt make them
linen breeches to cover their shame: from the loins even to the thighs
they shall reach, and Aaron and his sons shall wear them, when they
enter into the tabernacle of witness, and when they come unto the altar
of the holy place to offer sacrifice, that they lay not sin upon
themselves and die." [133] Some of us are said still to observe this,
but most explain it spiritually, and suppose it was said with a view to
guarding modesty and preserving chastity.
[115] Cic. de Off. I. 37, § 134.
[116] Sus. v. 35.
[117] S. Luke i. 29 ff.
[118] S. Luke xviii. 13, 14.
[119] 1 Pet. iii. 4.
[120] 1 Tim. ii. 9.
[121] Cic. de Off. I. 35.
[122] Cic. de Off. I. 36.
[123] Cic. de Off. I. 35, § 127.
[124] Gen. xxxix. 12.
[125] Cic. de Off. I. 35.
[126] Cic. de Off. I. 40, § 142.
[127] "modestia...quam a modo scientiæ, quid deceret, appellatam
arbitror."
[128] Gen. vi. 16.
[129] 1 Cor. xii. 22, 23.
[130] Ambr. de Noe et Arca. cap. viii.
[131] Gen. ix. 22.
[132] Cic. de Off. I. 35, § 129.
[133] Ex. xxviii. 42, 43.